Inner Strength

Hi everyone. My name is Enjolia Rhone and I am a proud single mom who enjoys being a mommy. I have a beautiful 7 year old daughter named Mia Jolie. She is my sunshine, my heart and my soul. I have always wanted to show her the best example humanly possible and made a vow to always show her how to be independent. I always wanted to show her how to be strong, especially when it came to matters of the heart. So that brings me to what I wanted to share with you today. I wanted to share my insight and experiences with you today and just maybe give someone the courage to be able to hold on to your INNER STRENGTH.

As long as I have been a “single mom,” I have felt that I at times have this stigma on me, as far as needing a man to take care of me and my kid. If that were the case, I wouldn’t be SINGLE in the first place. It takes a lot of courage and back bone to say, “I’m Done!” or to say, “I Deserve Better.” There is nothing wrong with knowing and accepting your self-worth. So I didn’t find “the one” just yet. That isn’t to say that I won’t. I am a firm believer of GOD and having faith in HIM. I am also a firm believer that there is someone out there for everyone. I just think that when you are a single mother, you really have to be more “selective” in the choice that you make. It affects not only you, but you little one or ones too.

I actually am going through a break-up now, although it’s amicable, it still hurts all of us. I thought that this man was the last man I was ever going to be with. I gave him my all and I tried my best to show him real love and companionship. I cooked, cleaned, rubbed his neck and back, and made plenty of love anytime he needed it. I mean, I felt like I was WIFE material for him. Apparently I was wrong. Last week he ended up making a hasty and rash decision, to break up the happy home that we had created this past year. I was completely devastated. I thought to myself, “Really, you wanted to play husband and father, and now when it gets rough you want to throw us OUT?!” I have to admit I am still a little in shock. Although it’s tough, the signs prior to this break-up were there. Our major issues were about money and his reluctance to spend it or earn it. He has been unemployed for over six months now and didn’t want to get a regular job because he wants to pursue his dream as a real estate agent. He also is the cheapest person ever!!!!  He hasn’t experience the world like I have and that is a huge issue.

See, the problem is, is that I knew what I wanted in my man. I knew what I wanted in a man for my daughter. Early on he was showing signs of not being what I wanted but I settled thinking that I was only worth so much. ABSOLUTELY NOT! I realize now, after he broke up with me, that I honestly am worth more. I am worth that nice purse or those cute shoes. I am worth taking to dinners from time to time. I am worth a man sticking it out with me because I am 100% strong loyal woman. I bring home the bacon and take care of my kid, with or without him. I found my INNER STRENGTH- and man does it feel GREAT! I am packing it up and my daughter and I are going to start a new adventure. So, to all those single mother and single women out there, you DO NOT have to settle for less. Hold on to your INNER STRENGTH. It’s there, you just had to look for it and when you find it, let me know how it works out.